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How To Know What You Really Want in Bed

14.07.2026
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Today, we're diving into pillar four of Sex IQ: self-knowledge. This is the pillar that ties everything together, because once you understand your body (embodiment), your health, and how to collaborate with a partner, the real magic happens when you actually know what turns you on. I'm breaking down core erotic desires using Jack Morin's erotic equation: the struggle we overcame plus the triumph on the other side often reveals exactly what turns us on most. We'll talk about the pleasure thieves that block self-knowledge (stress, trauma, and shame), why mindful self-pleasure is one of the fastest paths to understanding your own arousal, and how naming what you want to feel during sex changes everything about how you ask for it. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions in bed, this episode is your permission slip to get curious about yourself again.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

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Chapters:

Welcome to Sex With Emily

The Fourth Pillar of Sex IQ: Self-Knowledge

Breathing Exercise

What Self-Knowledge Really Mean?

Why Self-Pleasure Is the Key to Self-Discovery

Your Core Desires

Common Struggles That Shape Your Turn-Ons

Examples of Core Desires

What Your Fantasies Reveal About You

The Pleasure Thieves

How to Put Self-Knowledge Into Practice

Weekly Self-Knowledge Action Steps

Q&A: Rebuilding Trust After a Broken Boundary

Final Thoughts

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