Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Shadé Zahrai to explore how self-doubt quietly influences our decisions, and what it takes to rebuild trust in ourselves. Shadé unpacks the psychology behind impostor syndrome, fear of failure, and the inner stories that convince people they’re not ready or not enough. Together, they examine how the brain’s need for certainty drives worst-case thinking, and why that protective instinct often keeps us stuck, even when opportunity is right in front of us.
Shadé offers grounded frameworks, from shifting “should” into “could” to create more possibility, to designing simple action plans that help regain a sense of control when things feel overwhelming. Shadé reflects on purpose, care, and leaving people better than we found them, while Jay highlights that trusting yourself doesn’t mean never experiencing doubt. Together, they explore how self-image is shaped by the feedback we internalize, why criticism tends to linger longer than praise, and how healing emotional “scars” allows us to move forward without self-sabotage.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Trust Yourself Again
How to Stop Letting Self-Doubt Inform Your Decisions
How to Reframe Impostor Syndrome as Growth
How to Turn Fear Into Forward Action
How to Shift From “Should” to “Could”
How to Take Action When You Feel Stuck
How to Heal the Self-Image Behind the Self-Doubt
Confidence isn’t the absence of fear; it’s the willingness to move forward even when fear is present. Every step you take, no matter how small, strengthens your trust in yourself and reminds you that you are capable of learning, adapting, and becoming more than you were yesterday.
Pre-order Shadé’s new book, Big Trust, to dive deeper into the framework for rebuilding self-trust and breaking free from self-doubt:
https://www.shadezahrai.com/bigtrust
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
Intro
What Drives Self-Doubt?
The Power of Your Self-Image
The Four Pillars of Self-Image
Struggling With Self-Acceptance
How Lack of Acceptance Fuels Perfectionism
Shifting From Comparison to Emulation
Becoming Before You Believe
Why the Brain Craves Certainty
Do You Ever Feel Like You’re Not Enough?
Learning to Detach From Labels
The Self-Talk That Keeps You Grounded
Believing You’re Capable
Everyone Experiences Self-Doubt!
What Actually Replaces Self-Doubt?
Getting the Job Even When You Feel Underqualified
Understanding Key Differences Between Men and Women
Why Constant Complaining Signals Low Self-Trust
Growth After Trauma
Why We Focus on What We Can’t Control
Learning to Adapt to Your Emotions
Creating Your “I Could, I Will” List
Shadé on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Dr. Shadé Zahrai | Website
Dr. Shadé Zahrai | Instagram
Dr. Shadé Zahrai | YouTube
Dr. Shadé Zahrai | TikTok
Dr. Shadé Zahrai | Linkedin
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